When you have a baby, there’s an expectation that despite the pain of childbirth, the tiredness, the night feeds and the screaming newborn, it’s all worth it in the end. You receive cards congratulating you on your “new bundle of joy”, as your friends and family coo that you must be the happiest parents in the world. And that may well be true, but what if that doesn’t tell the whole story?
Experts estimate that around 80% of new mothers experience mood swings and sadness in the first few weeks after giving birth
. It is sometimes put down as “oh it’s just hormones” or “a case of the baby blues”. For most women, this is a normal period of adjustment that resolves itself with a little bit of time.
While the majority of women experience these mood changes, around 15% to 20% go through more serious symptoms of anxiety or depression
Going through postpartum depression can feel like the loneliest thing in the world at a time when you’re expected to be glowing with motherhood, which can make your mental wellbeing even harder to manage. With support and care from both healthcare professionals and your loved ones around you, you can and will fully recover. The most important thing is to not suffer in silence, and ask for help when you need it.
Who can get postpartum depression?
Think it’s just moms that get postpartum depression? Then think again. Parents of any sex can go through postpartum mental health issues. In fact, around 1 in 7 moms and 1 in 10 dads suffer from postpartum depression
The likelihood of suffering with postpartum mental health disorders can increase with different circumstances. While approximately 15% of women experience significant depression after giving birth,
the percentages are even higher for women dealing with poverty, and twice as high for teen parents.
Some other risk factors include going through financial or marital stress, premenstrual dysphoric disorder, a personal or family history of mental health issues, fertility treatment,
complications in pregnancy, birth or breastfeeding, and being parents of infants in neonatal intensive care.
If any of the above applies to you, it doesn’t mean that you will definitely suffer from postpartum depression, so try not to focus on it too much. It just means that you may want to be aware of your mental health, and discuss a plan with your doctor as well as those close to you about how to support you after giving birth.
Many women may be aware of how their vagina might change after birth and ready to face these changes. Sadly, postpartum mental health is something that is still spoken about in hushed tones, if at all, despite postpartum depression being the most common complication of childbirth.
So much more needs to be done to normalize postpartum depression and educate people about the symptoms. Let’s learn more about what to look out for.
What are the symptoms of postpartum depression?
One of the reasons that it can be tricky to work out if you’re suffering with postpartum depression is that the symptoms are different for every person. They can also start at any time, even during pregnancy and up to a year after giving birth. Symptoms might include:
- Feelings of anger or irritability
- Lack of interest in the baby
- Appetite and sleep disturbance
- Crying and sadness
- Feelings of guilt, shame or hopelessness
- Loss of interest, joy or pleasure in things you used to enjoy
- Possible thoughts of harming the baby or yourself
What are postpartum mental health disorders?
Though postpartum depression is the most common mental health concern that we might hear about, there are actually a range of mental health disorders that parents can experience. It might look like anxiety, obsessive symptoms, PTSD, bipolar mood disorders or even postpartum psychosis, which is an extremely rare condition that only occurs in 1 to 2 out of every 1,000 deliveries
If you’d like more information about the various postpartum mental health disorders, then Postpartum Support International
has detailed resources and information about how to access help.
Why is it so hard to admit you’re struggling postpartum
With so much change happening all at once, it can be difficult to even catch your breath. That’s why many parents might not recognize the symptoms of postpartum mental health disorders straight away. It’s easy to dismiss feelings of tiredness and being overwhelmed as simply a result of adjusting to being a parent. But you know yourself better than anybody else, so if you feel like something isn’t right then trust yourself.
Some people may be afraid to speak out, as they don’t want to be seen as complaining, or for others to think that they can’t handle life with a newborn. You don’t have to feel ashamed or embarrassed.
In the same way that you would tell your doctor if you had concerns about how your body is healing after giving birth, it’s absolutely fine to seek help for your mind. Postpartum is a medical condition that can be treated, you’re not a failure and it’s definitely not your fault.
Postpartum recovery and treatment
The good news is that postpartum depression is treatable, and there is lots of help available, meaning that with time you’ll feel a lot better. The first and most important step is reaching out to a medical professional about how you’re feeling, whether that’s your doctor, a midwife or even an emergency support line.
There are a variety of ways to treat postpartum depression, including talking therapy or counseling, social support, practicing self-care and treating the symptoms through medication. You can access help through phone helplines, online services, and support groups where people will understand what you’re going through, not pass judgment and instead offer support.
Self-care for new moms
Sometimes the smallest things can make the biggest difference. Self-care for new parents might mean just getting a couple of hours’ rest, eating well, and finding time for your personal needs like getting some gentle exercise. Help from others to look after your baby and any other children can help you have space to properly relax, enjoy time with your loved ones and recharge.
Postpartum mental health can be challenging, but remember that you don’t have to go through it alone. With the right support, you will find a way to feel better and navigate the ups and downs of life as a parent.